Lose the label.
The prominence of mental health in the media has had a positive effect overall, I think, and allowed people to feel more comfortable talking about their own issues. Certain celebrities have been very courageous in sharing their own experiences, and removed much of the stigma attached to mental illness. I think there has been a downside to this as well, which has meant that it has, in some instances, trivialised mental health.
The pumping out of terminology, and the use of labels, has muddied the waters between mental illness and the naturally painful experiences we have just being human. Many of the terms being bandied about are used to describe states which may show similar patterns of behaviour, but each person's experience is unique. One that is becoming popular at the moment is BPD. Other favourites are OCD, ADHD, Narcissistic, ODD. The list goes on.
To put it in perspective, many of these terms have their origin in a document called the DSM-5. Without going into its history, this is the fifth update of a diagnostic tool for psychiatrists and psychologists, and is linked to research funding , medication, and medical insurance. The DSM-5 lists over 300 mental disorders. In the original publication in 1952, homosexuality was classified as a mental disorder, only removed in the second version in 1973.
I see it as a sometimes helpful resource, but the problem with labels is that they can make you believe they define you. If you identify with a particular label, you may even feel that you have to live up to it, even if not on a conscious level. It can sometimes mislead you into thinking you are somehow defective; that unless you are permanently happy there is something wrong.
The current version of the DSM includes something called PCBD- Persistent Complex Bereavement Disorder; described as severe and persistent grief and mourning reaction. I would say that a severe and persistent grief and mourning reaction is an important part of being a human who has loved the person who has died. It's very painful, and the length of time it takes to adjust varies enormously with individuals, and most people manage to live fulfilling lives once they have allowed the process to take its course.
So you can see the problem I have with labels. Being finicky is NOT the same as having OCD. Someone who is feeling low after a bad experience is not the same as having chronic depression. Being human is often about experiencing psychological pain, and learning to live alongside it.